Getting through a break up is never easy. There are just so many unknown factors – can you get back together? will you meet someone else? Will someone ever love you again? Is your romantic life over for good?
Let’s start by looking at the toll that your break up has cost you so far.
Chances are you felt it in every ounce of your being – your mind, your body, your spirit — and of course most of all your heart.
It doesn’t matter if this is your first broken heart or your fifth, it is still an experience you will never want to go through again.
I want you to know that there is a better way of getting through a break up if you follow some of my tips below.
Tip 1 – Time will help you. I know that sounds a bit like a cliche right now but it is unfortunately true also. Even though you are going through heartbreak and shock every day things will get better (though you may not feel it at the time).
If you are at the start of your break up then your emotions are really really raw and you just aren’t in an emotional state to start to try and get them back so it’s best to not even attempt it.
If a little time has gone by you may have seen some slight improvements along the way and you’re getting to ready to think about reconciling with them.
And if you’ve been apart for a few months now then time really is of the essence and chances are you’re emotionally prepared and more confident to start approaching them and sussing out whether they would be willing to give you a second chance.
Tip 2 – Stop Sulking Or Feeling Sorry For Yourself
It’s only natural to feel that way but truly it will get you nowhere. Try to avoid doing it as best as you can. It may help by avoiding places that you used to go to together or by stop listening to your favourite love songs.
Try new places, new friends, and new experiences instead.
Tip 3 – Accept What You Can’t Change – For Now
The best way you can cope with your break up is by accepting you are apart — hopefully just for now — and that there is really nothing you can do about it — right at this second.
The sooner you can accept this the easier it will be to cope with your break up (and also the greater chance you will have at reconciling at some point in the future).
Tip 4 – Don’t Blabber Too Much But Find Some Friends You Trust
Okay, it’s important that you are not a broken record for everyone that you meet but also make sure that you do have some friends that you can share your pain with — just not every day. If you are able to vent or perhaps get another opinion then it will be beneficial to you. You may even want to look at an authority figure like a family friend, relative or even counsellor or pastor to give you some guidance. It’s up to you.
Tip 5 – Take The Time To Spoil Yourself Occasionally
You’re special, even though you may not feel it right now. It’s time to spoil yourself a little. If you’re female you might enjoy a manicure or a facial or some shopping in general. If you’re a guy you might want to treat yourself to a football or basketball game. Just something to make you feel good and give you an instant pick me up is a great way to stop thinking and feeling your break up right now..
Getting through a break up is all about you. These five tips will help you start.
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